Introduction
Anger is often viewed as a primary reaction to a situation, but in reality, it’s usually a secondary emotion. Behind every instance of anger, there are underlying feelings that can range from frustration and fear to sadness and helplessness. Child Development Institute’s SNAP® (Stop Now and Plan) programs recognize the complexity of emotions and offer tools to help children and families manage and address the root causes of anger in healthy and constructive ways.
What Is a Secondary Emotion?
Emotions like anger can mask more vulnerable feelings, such as sadness, embarrassment, fear, or hurt. These primary emotions are often uncomfortable to express directly, so anger becomes a way to protect oneself. However, when anger is expressed without understanding its root cause, it can lead to negative behaviours and strained relationships.
How SNAP Approaches Anger Management
The SNAP program is designed to help children identify and process their primary emotions before they escalate into anger. SNAP addresses anger through:
- Recognizing Triggers: SNAP teaches children and families how to recognize what triggers anger. By identifying the underlying emotions behind those triggers, they can develop strategies to address the situation without resorting to aggressive responses.
- Emotional Regulation Skills: SNAP encourages children to pause and reflect before reacting. Through tools like SNAP’s “Stop Now and Plan” technique, participants learn to stop, take a deep breath, and think through their emotions before acting out.
- Problem-Solving Strategies: Instead of letting anger drive their actions, children in SNAP are taught problem-solving skills. By reframing their perspective on challenges, they can reduce the feelings of helplessness that often lead to anger.
- Caregiver Involvement: Anger management isn’t only about the children. SNAP includes caregivers, equipping them with the same tools so they can help their children regulate their emotions and model healthy emotional responses.
The Long-term Benefits of Addressing Anger as a Secondary Emotion
By addressing the root emotions behind anger, SNAP helps children develop a deeper understanding of themselves. This leads to:
- Better emotional regulation
- Improved relationships with peers and family
- A reduction in aggressive behaviors
Conclusion
Understanding anger as a secondary emotion is a crucial step in managing it effectively. Through the SNAP program, children and their caregivers learn how to address the underlying emotions that trigger anger, leading to healthier emotional responses and stronger relationships.